1. What inspired you to write a biography of Marilyn Monroe
In truth, I didn't set out to write another biography of Marilyn Monroe. There have been hundreds of books about Marilyn, including some very good ones. I became fascinated instead by the girl who existed before Marilyn Monroe did: Norma Jeane Mortenson, and for much of her childhood, Norma Jeane Baker.
I wanted to know how a frightened and frequently displaced little girl, growing up without a father and with a mother unable to care for her consistently, moving through foster homes and an orphanage, became perhaps the most recognizable woman of the 20th century.
We know the ending so well that I think it has sometimes obscured the beginning. Marilyn Monroe didn't simply appear one day in Hollywood. She was created, consciously in some ways, unconsciously in others, by Norma Jeane's childhood, her loneliness, her remarkable powers of adaptation, and her determination to become somebody whom the world could not abandon.
The Girl Who Would Be Marilyn is the story of that becoming.
2. What would you say are some of the most common perceptions and misconceptions about her?
The greatest misconception may be that Marilyn was somehow inevitable.
We look backward at that extraordinary face and the white dress and Gentlemen Prefer Blondes and Some Like It Hot, and we imagine that this creature called Marilyn Monroe must always have been there.
She wasn't.
Norma Jeane was shy, insecure, desperately hungry for affection and stability, and much more observant and ambitious than the "dumb blonde" mythology surrounding Marilyn would later suggest. She learned very early to study people and to understand what they wanted from her. That was partly a survival mechanism.
Another misconception is that her sexuality was simply something innate that Hollywood discovered and exploited. Norma Jeane participated very consciously in constructing the woman who became Marilyn Monroe. The walk, the voice, the hair, the clothes, even the name were parts of an identity assembled over time.
But beneath that construction remained the girl who had spent much of her childhood wondering where she belonged and whether the people she loved would still be there tomorrow.
That's the Norma Jeane I wanted readers to meet.
3. How did you research the book, and what did you learn that especially surprised you?
I approached the book as a journalist as much as a biographer, going back whenever possible to contemporary records, interviews, archival material, photographs, accounts by people who actually knew Norma Jeane, and the enormous body of material that has accumulated around Marilyn Monroe.
The challenge with Marilyn isn't finding information. It's separating history from mythology. Her life has been retold so many times that stories repeated often enough have acquired the appearance of fact.
What surprised me most was the degree to which the adult Marilyn could already be glimpsed in Norma Jeane. Not the movie star, but the emotional architecture beneath her. The fear of abandonment. The longing to create a family. The ability to reinvent herself according to her surroundings. The enormous sensitivity to how others perceived her.
I was also struck by how precarious everything was. At several points in her young life, a different decision by an adult, a different foster home, a different marriage, even a different encounter might have sent Norma Jeane down an entirely different road. Knowing what she became makes us think her life had a destination. Living it forward, as she did, there was no such certainty.
That became one of the guiding principles of the book: to stop treating Norma Jeane as though she knew Marilyn Monroe was waiting for her.
4. J. Randy Taraborrelli said of the book, "What emerges is a moving portrait of a young woman shaped by instability, longing, and an enduring search for love and safety." What do you think of that assessment?
I think Randy captured the emotional center of the book beautifully.
I was especially pleased because he understood that this isn't fundamentally a book about celebrity. It's about a young woman's search for permanence.
Norma Jeane spent much of her childhood being moved from one place to another and learning that the people and circumstances around her could disappear. She wanted what most children take for granted: a home, security, somebody who would stay.
That longing didn't disappear when she became beautiful. It didn't disappear when photographers discovered her or when Hollywood did. If anything, fame eventually complicated it.
One of the tragedies of Marilyn Monroe is that millions of people came to adore her while some part of Norma Jeane continued searching for the much simpler thing she had wanted as a child: to feel safe and loved.
So, yes, I think Randy got it exactly right.
5. What are you working on now?
Several projects, which is usually how I get myself into trouble.
I'm completing work on Pancho: Triumph and Tragedy of an American Legend, my biography of tennis great Pancho Gonzales, which Bloomsbury will publish in 2027. Pancho is another fascinating and complicated American figure, a Mexican American kid from Los Angeles who became arguably the greatest professional tennis player of his era while battling both the establishment and, quite often, himself.
I'm also continuing my interest in formative biography, looking at iconic Americans before they became the people history remembers. One of those projects is The Boy Who Would Be JFK, about the young Jack Kennedy: the sickly, often overlooked second son who grew up in the shadow of his seemingly destined older brother, Joe Jr., long before anyone imagined that Jack would become president.
What interests me increasingly as a biographer isn't simply what famous people did after the world discovered them. It's what happened before that, when nobody knew how the story would end.
6. Anything else we should know?
Perhaps only this: I hope readers who pick up The Girl Who Would Be Marilyn because they are fascinated by Marilyn Monroe finish it feeling that they have met someone else.
Norma Jeane.
There is an understandable temptation with an icon to interpret every childhood photograph and every adolescent experience as a preview of what is coming. I tried very hard not to do that.
The girl in this book doesn't know she will become Marilyn Monroe.
She doesn't know that people will someday analyze her photographs, imitate her voice, auction her dresses or argue about her death. She's simply trying to get through childhood, find somewhere she belongs, fall in love, create a home and imagine a future.
For me, that's where Marilyn Monroe's story becomes most human.
Before she became an icon, she was a girl trying very hard not to be left behind.
--Interview with Deborah Kalb